THINGS I APPRECIATE BEING SINGLE

Are you in the primetime of your life and still single?  Welcome to the club then!

I know it’s not easy to be single when we are getting older especially with the likes of me who is picky. 

Oh well, I have a good life and I am having fun.  If I let someone in, it must have that “awesome” feeling.  Sparks, chemistry, excitement and thrills should be there.

In over two years that I’ve been single, I found only one that qualifies in that category, aka Mr. Clouds. However, for some reasons we are not meant to be together.   

But that doesn’t mean I will be miserable being single.  Having said that, I’ll share to you things I appreciate being single.

1.     I CAN DO THINGS I USED TO DO: 

A simple example is the type of music I listen. With a partner around the house I have to adjust. But now that I am single from pop music to rock I can tune up the volume as loud as I want and dance while cleaning my room without someone telling me to be sensitive.   Or during my day off, I don’t have to wake up before lunch to prepare food. I can sleep the whole day until I get hungry and no pressure of getting dressed. I can just put my shorts and shirt on, go down to any restaurant, eat and go back to sleep, nobody bothers me.

2.       I CAN SOCIALIZE SPONTANEOUSLY WITH FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES:

After work, I can call friends or colleagues without making prior schedule and go out with them. With a partner, if my colleagues asked me out, I often say no because I have to consider the other person.  Maybe the invitation was just for me or if he was invited, I don’t want him to feel awkward that he can’t understand our terminologies at work.

3.       I CAN BE VOCAL IN COMPLIMENTING OTHER PEOPLE

I am a very friendly person. As sassy as I am, I love to throw compliments to people. Imagine how my partner would feel if I tell someone sitting next to me in the pub he has cute eyes. It would be a long story that will end up in argument I am sure.  But being single gives me a license to just compliment everyone whatever nice things I saw. In Hoi An Old Quarter once, a traveler approached me to ask an address written in a piece of paper and after guiding him, with a sweet smile I said, “nice shoes by the way”.  It was very obvious that the shoes were made in Hoi An, so I just throw a bait actually.  He took the bait.  He looked at me with a smile, chatted a little bit about it then he threw an invitation for coffee. I can’t do that if I am with someone, can I?  It’s a nice feeling. The art of compliments which has a power to attract people.

4.     

      I  CAN BE LUXURIOUS  WITH  MY TIME TO WORK OUT

I can hang around in the gym until it closes without thinking someone is waiting for me.  I don’t have to skip Zumba just because I need to catch up.  So being single means no more painful criticism for being late.

5.       

          RECONNECT LOVING MYSELF, DATING MYSELF 

Now I have the so called “me time”.  I can date myself and enjoy whatever I wanted to do.   I can go out on a day trip by myself and I have the time to understand myself better. It makes being single more fun. A relationship is only as good as you invest, correct?  Now that I am single I invested my time to myself, so I am having good relationship with myself.  Here’s an example of having relationship with myself. I fall for aka Mr. Clouds but there’s no nasty pain when he left.  When he waved goodbye at the airport there was tightness in my throat. But I told myself, “oh. I still have myself”. Life moves on and I remember him in a good way. See how loving yourself helps in situation like that?  

These are just 5 out of the many things I can appreciate being single.

Trust me,  I had my share of long term relationship with a man and it’s easier to get destroyed in the absence of kids.  Simple arguments coupled with blaming each other if not resolve in a compromise manner, the word separation will never stop tagging along.  

Anyway, If you cannot prevent the word separation or divorce then you might as well practice living how to be single.